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[후기]The almanack of Naval Ravikant

How to get rich without getting lucky

자기계발 책을 (너무 반복되어서) 최근 자제해왔는데, 유튜브에서 접한 naval이란 사람의 말이 공감되는 부분이 많아보여, 교보 갈때 마다 고민하다, 세 번째 그 책을 다시 집어드는 나를 보고 구매를 결정한 책.

Naval은 이 책으로 수익을 받지 않는다, 그에게 많은 영감을 받은 저자가 큐레이션 한 책이라서. 그가 돈을 버는 거다. 그럼에도 줄을 많이 그었다. 칼라풀한 포스트잇이 가득한 책들을, 다시 한번 그 부분만 읽고, 나중에 또 배우자고 기록해둔다.

시간이 가면서 읽어둬야 할 책들도 많이 추천해준다. 정말 행복하게 자유롭게 독립했으면 하는 Naval의 마음이 느껴진다.

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무언가 목적이 아닌, 그 자체로 이유가 되는 것들을 하면서 살아야 한다는 말, 20대까지 느끼지 못했던 말들. 목적 지향적으로 살아가는 것이 얼마나 나 같은 성향의 사람에겐 그게 얼마나 큰 불안을 안고 살게 하는지 알기 때문에, 그냥 좋아서 해도, 오히려 더 잘되더라. 이걸 느끼는데 참 오래걸림. 저자는 예술이 그렇다는 데, 내 마음 깊숙한 곳에서 무언가 나와서 한다는 그 느낌인것 같음. 현실과 예술의 경계에서 균형을 잘 잡는게 어려운 숙제인 것 같고. 그래서 그냥 시간 팔아서 일하지 말고, 회사를 차리거나, 아님 그 지분을 사서 ‘투자’를 해 가는 것이 진짜 부를 이루는 방식이라고 얘기한다.

>it’s just my motivation has shifted from being goal-oriented to being artistic. Ironically, I think I’m much better at it now.

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내 마음에도 간헐적 단식의 시간을 주기- 한주에 최소 한번은 ‘생각’할 시간을 가지라고 한다. 초공감. 그 방식은 사람마다 다르겠지만, 나의 경우엔 내가 읽고 싶었던 책을 읽고, 복기하는 지금 이 시간이 그래도 뇌의 회로가 돌아가는 느낌이 드는 시간이다. 나머지는 핸드폰이 나를 이끄는대로 따라가는 데 바쁘니까. 그래서 이런 시간을 일주일에 최소 2번은 - 그래야 한 번은 하니까 - 내 달력에 꽂아둬야 한다.

.. 몸도 간헐적 단식을 해야 한다는 것, 위에게 쉴 시간을 줘야 하는거, 특히 자기 전. 더불어 나의 마음도 간헐적 단식을 해야 한다는 것

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내 자신을 박테리아라 아메바로 생각하고, 내가 하는 모든 것들이 그냥 한 순간이라고 (모래 위에 성을 쌓는 것 처럼) 생각하면 세상이 그렇게 편하단다. 내 에고를 작게 해야, 현실을 볼 수 있는 버퍼가 생긴다. 부단히 의식하고 노력해야 하는 부분이다. 내가 대단하다고 생각하려는 것 자체가 그렇지 않으니까 그렇게 하는 거니까.

나의 밑줄

The most important skill for getting rich is becoming a perpetual learner… knowing how to be persuasive when speaking is far more important than being an expert digital marketer or click optimizer.

- 그래서 많이 읽어야 함..

Intentions don’t matter. Actions do. That’s why being ethical is hard.

The people who have the ability to fail in public under their own names actually gain a lot of power.

The real wealth is created by starting your own companies or even by investing…there are the routes to wealth. It doesn’t come through the hours.

following your genuine intellectual curiosity is a better foundation for a career than following whatever is making money right now.

I only really want to do things for their own sake. That is one definition of art. Whether it’s business, exercise, romance, friendship, whatever. I think the meaning of life is to do things for their own sake.

with a leveraged worker, judgement is far more important than how much time they put in or how hard they work.

It has always been a whole bunch of small things piling up.

The best way to stay away from this constant love of money is not to upgrade your lifestyle as you make money… for me, freedom is my number one value.

..적은 돈으로도 살 수 있게, 나머지는 다 저축하거나 투자하기. 그래야 진정한 freedom

I think the smartest people can explain things to a child. If you can’t explain it to a child, then you don’t know it. It’s a common saying and it’s very true.

The smaller you can make your ego, the less conditioned you can make your reactions, the less desires you can have about the outcome you want, the easier it will be to see the reality.

…if you view yourself as a bacteria or an amoeba- or if you view all of your works as writing on water or building castles in the sand, then you have no expectations for how life should ‘actually’ be. Life is just the way it is. When you accept that, you have no cause to be happy and unhappy.

…the ability to singularly focus is related to the ability to lose yourself and be present, happy, and (ironically) more effective.

I encourage taking at least one day a week (preferably two, because if you budget two, you’ll end up with one) where you just have time to think.

tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.

Does it still serve me? I am less habitual than most people. I don’t like to structure my day.

Praise specifically, criticize generally.

Just read because you enjoy it

“I don’t want to read everything, I just want to read the 100 great books over and over again”

Start with the original philosophers of the economy. If you are into communist or socialist ideas, start by reading Karl Marx. Don’t read the current interpretation someone is feeding you about how things should be done and run.

We think of ourselves as fixed and the world as malleable, but it’s really we who are malleable and the world is largely fixed.

The anxiety is just a series of running thoughts.

I try to have more than one big desires very carefully. I try not to have more than one big desires vary in my life at any given time, and I also recognize it as the axis of my suffering. I release the area where I’ve chosen to be unhappy.

The trick is knowing when to jump off and play instead.

.just being aware you are a rat in a race is about as far as most of us are going to get.

In any situation in life, you always have three choices: you can change it, you can accept it, or you can leave it.

World’s simplest diet: the more processed the food, the less one should consume.

…intermittent fasting

How you make a habit doesn’t matter: do something every day…

You mind is such a powerful thing. What’s so unusual about your forebrain sending signals to your hindbrain and your hindbrain’s routing resources to your entire body?

Most of our suffering comes from avoidance.

Time spent undistracted and alone, in self-examination, journaling, meditation, resolves the unresolved and takes us from mentally fat to fit.

Is that separation is the liberation.

Really, I wish I had done all of the same thing, but with less emotion and less anger.

Impatience with actions, patience with results.

Courage isn’t charging into a machine gun next. Courage isn’t charging into not caring what other people think.

Anyone around whom I can’t be fully honest, I don’t want to be around.

How do you define wisdom? Understanding the long-term consequence so of your actions.

Recommended books

-sapiens: a brief history of humankind by Tuvalu Noah

-the rational optimist

-skin in the game

-the day you became a better writer

-lazy leadership