Say it. "I need you"

Be real. Be here.

People keep searching for someone and tend to bound themselves in a frame called "relationship". There are many kinds: love relationship, knighthood, friendship, familyhood, religious brotherhood or sisterhood, work relationships, you name it. In a lot of cases, they say the relationship is all with, of and for "love". Then the question arises: "Is love something that you have to strive to accomplish?" "Is it some kind of tomeish trophy? Like something that only the accomplished can feel?" If not. If it's something that's' already there; why bother to chase the relationship for love? Why do you bother to seek out love? Why do you create trouble for yourself?

This is all because the relationship is not out of love, but out of "need". It's very obvious people search for any kinds of relationship because they "need" them. You can't "wanna" love. because love is already there. You want something when you lack it. How can you want something when you already have it?

The trick here is that people don't want to admit, or often are not even aware that they are chasing relationships purely out of need. Cuz in that case, they come across as "needy" and "weak". So they cover it up with all the frills and whatnot, making it look like they are doing it out of a "holier" reason.

But the truth is, they "need" the relationship so badly; so badly they cry, bowl, and scream when it breaks up. I see it in their eyes. I feel it in their mind. They wanna grab at it by the end of its cloak like it's the end of the world. But even after they experience the whole lot of drama, they still say it was all out of "love". When something's purely out of love.. that's already there, why do you hurt? for something that's has never been lost? Yes. They still don't wanna seem weak or needy, even at the endgame. Cuz only then can they protect their sainthood and sanity.

I call this people a "coward". The type that doesn't want to admit that they need someone. Even when deep down they know they are needy, they're afriad of expressing that, cuz they fear rejection. Cuz that would hurt so badly. Your social sense of self. Your "me". A coward goes out there, sets the scene up and curtively manipulates it so that the target thinks that the coward "loves" them. Not need them. Love them.

So if you wanna be a real being. If you will to be a true being on Earth. When you need me, express that fully: that you need me. Only then will I honor your courage and respond with a full heart and choose whether I'm gonna have need of you too. Say it. That you need me. When you need someone, deliberately need them. Say "I need you", and ask "Will you have need of me too?". Don't coat it with sugar. Don't cover it with words sweet in the ear. Be real. Be here.