Buckle up, ladies!
Bit of a vent.
Trigger warning: skip if you're an ugly man.
I got out of a 1.5-year trash situationship.
Here’s the thing about dating an ugly guy:
You don’t really expect that he would dare treat you like crap.
(How stupid and elegant of me!!!)
He wasn’t physically attractive.
Wouldn’t call him fat, but definitely out of shape — belly, full-on dad bod.
Not funny or smart… nor interesting.
So I just assumed he was nice???
Anyway, this was the only manchild I’ve ever dated.
I couldn’t even process that someone could ignore such basic human manners.
One of the biggest issues from the beginning
(besides hygiene, which was a whole other thing):
I shouldn’t have to tell a grown-ass man to
wash his hands,
brush his teeth,
or use SHAMPOO (WTF).
His top priorities were clear:
going out,
drinking,
hanging with friends.
(This dude is in his late 30s.)
But he couldn’t invite me — because all his friends "don’t like me."
That’s what he told me. Literally.
I do not even know most of them.
He said he loved me,
but it was just too hard to choose between me and his other female friends.
By the way — he chose them 100% of the time.
When he didn’t have plans, he’d come to me
full attention,
lovey-dovey,
doing all the nice sweet things,
Princess treatment.
But the second a better offer came along?
I was the “crazy” one for expecting a SINGLE text the whole weekend.
And Monday morning,
He’d just start sending me reels — not even a proper message.
Like nothing ever happened.
And yeah,
I saw him with another girl.
Final straw!
If you’re wondering why I tolerated this bullshit for so long…
This kind of inconsistency leads to obsession.
It’s a real psychological thing — not just in relationships, but in family, work, everything.
Your brain starts craving patterns, answers, closure.
You keep going back, not because it’s good, but because your mind is trying to solve something that makes no sense.
If he looked like a charming man?
Red flag!!!
I would’ve walked away from day one.
But when a guy looks like that and still does this?
It’s honestly hard to believe.
So I stayed confused, constantly trying to figure out what the hell was going on.
And once again — inconsistency breeds obsession.
It makes you overthink, overinvest, and stay longer than you should.
It creates a loop where your mind keeps seeking resolution that never comes.
So buckle up, ladies.
Doesn’t matter if he looks like a fuckboy
or like the friendly neighborhood uncle.
Same shit, different face.
(It hurts more with the ugly one though)
