The flaws of others are the wounds inside me.
The reason I can see the other person's flaws is because I have similar flaws in me. When I meet that person, I feel the flaws right away, and the reason why I have a hard time is because the same flaws exist in me.
No one is good or bad from the start. It's just that my relationship with that person is good or bad. If the person I think is good harms me, he becomes a bad person, and if the person I think is bad does me a favor, he becomes a good person.
If you meet 10 people, there are 2 people who like you, 7 people who are not interested in you, and 1 person who hates you for no reason. This is a natural law of human relationships. Just because he's different from me, and he hates me, I don't have to suffer or be hurt.
Everyone has their own color and subjectivity. Trying to match the other person's personality and thoughts with mine is vain greed. Your opponent cannot be the same as you. You need to know that he may have different thoughts and circumstances than mine. Conflict is what happens when you insist that the other person's thoughts should be the same as mine. We have to admit that each of us thinks differently. That is the attitude of a mature person.
When I readily admit him who is different from me, he will be willing to admit me who thinks differently from him.