Happiness depends on ..

Happiness depends on our choices.

Looking back on the past few years, my heart has suffered. Although I did not suffer great misfortune myself, I was deeply troubled by the misfortunes of my family, friends and acquaintances, as well as their lives, old age and sickness. I felt great sadness for my mother's death, a friend's serious illness, and a senior's sudden death.

The unhappiness and pain of a loved one has a great impact on our happiness. Happiness is highly dependent on the happiness of our loved ones as well as ourselves. When the loved one is unhappy, I feel unhappiness, and when the precious person is happy, I feel happy too. Because both happiness and unhappiness are spread through people.

What are the conditions for a happy life? In Buddhism, a life without pain is described as happiness. Even if there is no pain, even if there is no unhappiness, it is a happy life. What we need to know to be happy is unhappiness. Happiness is not far from misfortune, but because there are many times when it comes together like the front and back sides of a coin.

To be happy, you have to work to get rid of pain. Dr. George Vaillant, the master of happiness studies, emphasized the importance of having an attitude to cope with difficulties as a condition for happiness. When hardships come, it is important how we respond to them. It means that you should not be caught up in hardships and suffer for a long time. It means don't let hardship hurt your heart.

Happiness is all around us. Happiness is to be able to walk on two feet, happiness is to have healthy children, and happiness is to be able to eat a warm meal. It's very easy to find happiness all around you if you change your thinking a little. Whether what happens moment by moment or the people who come to us will be happy or unhappiness depends entirely on our choices.

Whether you choose happiness or unhappiness, whether you choose joy or sorrow, all choices are completely up to you. If you choose unhappiness, misfortune will come, and if you choose happiness, happiness will come. Don't regret the past, and don't worry about the future that hasn't come yet. Focus only on the present and choose the happiness that is all around you.

I wish you full of joy in choosing happiness every moment.