When your loved ones are alive

When your loved ones are alive, you should be good to them.

What is the greatest sorrow in the world?

Think about it. What has been your biggest sadness so far? Perhaps for many people, it is the experience of sending someone dear to heaven when they die.

There is only one order from person to person: the order in which we are born. The order in which people are born is fixed, but the order in which people die is not. The order in which resident registration numbers are received after birth is fixed, but the order in which death reports go up to heaven is not fixed.

A wise man said: If the family dies in the order of their birth, it is a great blessing. If the family born later died first and ascended to heaven, it would cause great sorrow. Imagine. How would you feel if your children died before you did?

One of the things that everyone must go through without exception is the sadness of death. It is the sad fate of human beings. Everyone has to experience the passing of grandparents and watch the passing of father and mother. It is the sadness of death that people must learn, but one of the most difficult things to learn is the sadness of death.

What if your parents die? Perhaps you will feel the sadness of the sky falling down. What if your child suddenly dies first? You will probably feel bitter sorrow.

So it's good for you to be good to your family or important people. Because you cannot know the time and order of their death and ascension to heaven. Like the lyrics of a song widely known to the public, “Do good while your precious person is alive, don’t regret it later.” There is nothing you can do about crying and shouting after your loved one or precious person dies and leaves for heaven. So you should do well while your precious person is alive.

The weight of death I experienced is like this. When I heard the news of my grandfather's death as a child, I was momentarily surprised and frightened rather than sad. It was the first time I recognized that a precious person died and left for heaven. When I saw with my own eyes my second older brother suddenly passed away in a car accident in my early 30s, I felt mixed emotions such as futility of life, anger, and sadness. When my parents passed away, a feeling of desolation and great sadness came over me, with a feeling that my heart sank. For months I prayed in my heart and prepared for contingency, but I couldn't escape my feelings of sadness.

And recently, when my child went to a dangerous situation due to corona, I felt fear momentarily, and I really knew with my whole body what the phrase 'out of my mind' meant. My mother told me many times that there was great sadness in her heart after the loss of her second son, and now I understand a little more.

When I was working in Indonesia in my mid-30s, I was on the brink of death from an unknown disease. When I lay in the emergency room at the hospital, barely breathing, and the fear of dying came over me, I said to myself, ‘Help me. Please help me.’ I found myself praying earnestly. I didn't want to die so soon. I still have vivid memories of that time. After the experience of dying, I felt happy every moment of my daily life, such as eating with my wife and taking a walk with my children.

In the 60 years of my life, I have experienced a variety of life, death, illness, and joy. I have experienced many lives and deaths, joys and sorrows. If people can live with this realization while they are young, I think they will be happier in life while maintaining good relationships with their loved ones.

We should do well when our precious people are alive. "Do good while your important person is alive. Don't regret after your important person dies and leaves. Do good while your important person is alive, don't let your heart be shaken. This is your last chance. Now open the door to your heart." Like the lyrics of the song called, Now you have to open the door of your heart wide and be good to your precious person. You must put down the hatred and resentment in your heart, and only do good with a loving heart.

We never know when our loved ones will leave us.